Kara Redoutey, MBA, CFRE
Why are leaders hesitant to do this?
We discussed asking for help and started a brief discussion on the loss of control in leadership last week, which we will continue to explore later in this series. Impatience is a flaw we often face in leadership as we learn to ask for help and deal with the loss of control. As you can see, leadership is very difficult and it takes a lot of practice and patience. Patience is very difficult because you are relying on other people to assist you with a project, which means you are often waiting on others in order for you to complete the task. We like accomplishing tasks ourselves and reaping the reward. We enjoy our false beliefs that we can do it better or faster ourselves. We want what we want and we want it now, as we live in a culture of immediate gratification. Patience is a difficult quality to develop and it takes time and thought, the opposite of what an impatient person wants to spend time doing.
What is the case for doing it anyway?
Our stress level is increased the more impatient we are and we already have enough to do. People who are impatient are often seen as impetuous or as inadequate decision makers because they often don’t take the time they need to fully assess a situation. Many people don’t like to work with impatient people who behave in this manner. We develop healthier relationships with our colleagues when we practice patience. Our team accomplishes more when we are practicing patience and focusing on teaching. Our work lives become more meaningful and impactful to our growth and the growth of others if we slow down and enjoy the journey.
How can you do it?
Identify some of the main reasons you become impatient. Work on recognizing these triggers quickly and squashing the impatience.
Find ways that help ease your impatience and slow your pace. Some leaders may choose to close their eyes and take deep breaths.
Work hard to balance your work and personal life so you can manage stress and impatience effectively when it happens. You can then fully enjoy the experience of life and the rewards that come with the patient consideration of all opportunities in front of you.